One thing I have learnt through being a parent is lots of items you think are essential, have proved to be nothing of the sort!
Everyone will offer you advice and their personal pearls of parenting wisdom, but whilst nicely meant it can sometimes be overwhelming.
In my case this meant I sat and procrastinated about what to buy so much so, that our baby was in danger of being born with nothing ready.
I am pleased to say however that I did eventually get my act together well almost together before Noah's birth.
Quite a few people have asked me to do this post, so it's dedicated to the items we have purchased and found really useful. This is in the hope that it will help other soon to be parents distinguish between useful products and those that are a gimmick or non-essential. I've left it eleven months so that I can genuinely say and feel confident in the recommendations I am making.
The important thing to point out before I say anything else is that a new born baby in fact needs very little in the way of products and goods. They need love, food and somewhere cosy to sleep.
Clothing:
The important thing to point out before I say anything else is that a new born baby in fact needs very little in the way of products and goods. They need love, food and somewhere cosy to sleep.
Clothing:
You will have romantic views of outfits you will dress your little one in: tops, trousers, dresses, tights, waistcoats, coats etc. The reality is they will live in baby grows (all-in-one suits) no one has time to be faffing with separate items, well not till they are about six months old.
Stock up on at least fourteen baby grows and twelve baby vests. Make sure the baby grows and vests have poppers and that you can quickly access nappies and easily remove/put them on.
Buy those which are appropriate for the season in which your baby will be born, long sleeves for Winter and cap sleeves for Summer. This also applies to cardigans (minimum of two), Jackets and hats.
Stock up on at least fourteen baby grows and twelve baby vests. Make sure the baby grows and vests have poppers and that you can quickly access nappies and easily remove/put them on.
Refrain from buying loads of things yourself, you will have loads of new born clothes that will be gifted to you, so many so you could put your baby in a different outfit everyday. If you want to purchase bits yourself go for the outfit that your baby will come home in from the hospital, a coat, or purchase baby clothes that are older, six to nine months.
Sleeping:
There are numerous options for sleeping, Moses basket, crib, cot and many products on the market promising you and your new baby a good nights sleep.
We decided not to use a Moses basket for many reasons, friends had advised us that they were a total waste of money, that their little ones would not sleep in them and for those that would they only last a few months.
Instead of a Moses basket we opted for a Stokke Sleepi Mini (£445), beautiful in design, the wheels make moving it really easy, the size is amazingly efficient and it meant that Noah happily fitted in our room for the first six months.
It also meant that we didn't then have the issue of transferring Noah from Moses basket to a cot. This also has the benefit of being able to be extended to a full size cot and bed.
I also highly recommend our Chicco Next2Me Bedside Crib (£165). Perfect for being close to your baby, feeding and from my experience getting back to sleep quicker as involves less getting up and down in the night.
Remember if you're going for a cot you will also need a fitted sheet I opted for The Little Green Sheep organic fitted sheet and a mattress protector (but can also recommend DK Glovesheets), cellular blanket and a baby sleeping bag.
But our best product definitely had to be the Sleepyhead Delux Portable Baby Pod (£110).
What might seem like a very expensive pillow, was an absolute godsend. This is the pillow just keeps on giving, I found so many uses for this pillow, tummy time, play mat, perfect for travelling, changing station and a lovely bed that little Noah was wonderfully snuggled in.
You only need to read the wonderful reviews for this product to see that it is money well spent. The only downside is that the Sleepyhead is outgrown well before eight months. At six months we moved Noah into the Sleepyhead Grand.
I found finding the right baby monitor incredibly stressful. I knew that it was an important purchase and so did plenty of research. But seriously there is just too much choice. Do you go for audio only, one with video, what about a sound and movement sensors. One word STRESS!
For me personally I wanted a monitor with a sound and movement sensor, sudden infant death syndrome frighted the life out of me. So we opted for the Angelcare Movement and Sound Monitor AC401 (£74.99).
This has been a great monitor, it has relaxed me knowing that the alarm will go off if movement and sound is not detected.
It was easy to set up but you want to make sure that you have done it right, especially if you have chosen a movement pressure pad. Setting this up after birth having had little sleep and under pressure is not advisable.
In the early days white noise is also a great way to settle a baby. I found the following apps great for at home and on the go. Sleepy Sounds and Sound Sleeper. If you're looking for a teddy Ewan the dream sheep combines soothing music and lights babies seem to love him.
Bath and changing:
Some people will tell you that a baby bath is not essential but to be honest I really think it is. Whilst it takes up space and you probably won't use it beyond three months, the alternative is a top and toe baby bowl or holding your baby desperately trying not to drown them and breaking your back over a bath at the same time.
I still remember bathing Noah for the first time they feel tiny and like you might break them. A baby bath means that your baby is securely supported and gives you the ability to use your hands to wash them.
Sleeping:
There are numerous options for sleeping, Moses basket, crib, cot and many products on the market promising you and your new baby a good nights sleep.
We decided not to use a Moses basket for many reasons, friends had advised us that they were a total waste of money, that their little ones would not sleep in them and for those that would they only last a few months.
Instead of a Moses basket we opted for a Stokke Sleepi Mini (£445), beautiful in design, the wheels make moving it really easy, the size is amazingly efficient and it meant that Noah happily fitted in our room for the first six months.
I also highly recommend our Chicco Next2Me Bedside Crib (£165). Perfect for being close to your baby, feeding and from my experience getting back to sleep quicker as involves less getting up and down in the night.
Remember if you're going for a cot you will also need a fitted sheet I opted for The Little Green Sheep organic fitted sheet and a mattress protector (but can also recommend DK Glovesheets), cellular blanket and a baby sleeping bag.
You only need to read the wonderful reviews for this product to see that it is money well spent. The only downside is that the Sleepyhead is outgrown well before eight months. At six months we moved Noah into the Sleepyhead Grand.
I found finding the right baby monitor incredibly stressful. I knew that it was an important purchase and so did plenty of research. But seriously there is just too much choice. Do you go for audio only, one with video, what about a sound and movement sensors. One word STRESS!
For me personally I wanted a monitor with a sound and movement sensor, sudden infant death syndrome frighted the life out of me. So we opted for the Angelcare Movement and Sound Monitor AC401 (£74.99).
This has been a great monitor, it has relaxed me knowing that the alarm will go off if movement and sound is not detected.
It was easy to set up but you want to make sure that you have done it right, especially if you have chosen a movement pressure pad. Setting this up after birth having had little sleep and under pressure is not advisable.
In the early days white noise is also a great way to settle a baby. I found the following apps great for at home and on the go. Sleepy Sounds and Sound Sleeper. If you're looking for a teddy Ewan the dream sheep combines soothing music and lights babies seem to love him.
Some people will tell you that a baby bath is not essential but to be honest I really think it is. Whilst it takes up space and you probably won't use it beyond three months, the alternative is a top and toe baby bowl or holding your baby desperately trying not to drown them and breaking your back over a bath at the same time.
I still remember bathing Noah for the first time they feel tiny and like you might break them. A baby bath means that your baby is securely supported and gives you the ability to use your hands to wash them.
I chose the Tippitoes Mini Bath (£13) which was a great buy, deep enough to wet the entire baby but allows them to sit comfortably, supported with anti-slip pads.
Another wonderful bath is the Angelcare Soft Touch Bath (£18.99) with support.
You will also need towels and toiletries as well as a thermometer for the bath to check the water temperature. Finding towels with hoods for a baby is a challenge, shops to look in are Mothercare, Dunelm and Mamas and Papas.
Stockpile a supply of nappies, wipes and cotton wool. Go easy though on purchasing too many first stage nappies; babies grow quickly and they will out grow this size quickly.
One thing I didn't register for ages, is that most newborn baby nappies have a marker on the front which changes colour when your baby needs changing.
A great purchase for disposing of nappies has to be the Tommee Tippee nappy disposal bin (£24.95). Ours has been well used and I would absolutely repurchase it.
In the UK rubbish is collected weekly and in some areas general waste fortnightly. Nappies absolutely stink but this bin means that they are hygienically locked away and can conveniently be disposed of in your weekly rubbish.
Feeding:
I have written a whole post on breastfeeding here.
Breastfeeding is a lot harder that it looks it can be one of the most stressful things about being a new mummy but I promise if you stick with it that it does get easier. In the early days it's painful and very tiring to have a little person constantly feeding (cluster feeding).
A feeding essential that I found useful; have at least two tubes of Lansinoh cream, use it regularly after each feed, even if you don't have pain to start with. Make sure you pack a tube in you hospital bag.
It's tempting to express milk early on, don't resist the urge at least till you are in a routine with your feeding and milk supply. I would say at last six weeks. Buy the best breast pump you can, trust me it will be money well spent. I went for Medela Swing Breast Pump (£134.99).
Its worth sharing that most breast pumps you can purchase different size teats.
Regardless of how you decide to feed your baby you will need breastfeeding pads. They are as much for keeping milk in, as they are for protecting your nipples rubbing on clothing and getting sore. I loved the Johnson's nursing pads.
With a baby under one you will need to sterilise everything. I loved my Tommee Tippee Closer to Nature Microwave Steriliser (£19.99).
Within four minutes I could sterilise bottles, breast pump attachments and other feeding utensils.
Travel:
Buying a pram and pushchair is a big investment, think wisely about your needs and lifestyle. I've known loads of friends who have regretted their pushchair purchase six months in.
Big is not always better, consider your needs, are you living in a busy city? Will you be getting on and off busses? Huge off terrain wheels then are probably not the easiest to navigate around shopping isles and on a bus. Also think about the weight of your pushchair, if a lift is out could you carry the pushchair and your baby.
You will also need towels and toiletries as well as a thermometer for the bath to check the water temperature. Finding towels with hoods for a baby is a challenge, shops to look in are Mothercare, Dunelm and Mamas and Papas.
A great purchase for disposing of nappies has to be the Tommee Tippee nappy disposal bin (£24.95). Ours has been well used and I would absolutely repurchase it.
Feeding:
I have written a whole post on breastfeeding here.
Breastfeeding is a lot harder that it looks it can be one of the most stressful things about being a new mummy but I promise if you stick with it that it does get easier. In the early days it's painful and very tiring to have a little person constantly feeding (cluster feeding).
A feeding essential that I found useful; have at least two tubes of Lansinoh cream, use it regularly after each feed, even if you don't have pain to start with. Make sure you pack a tube in you hospital bag.
Regardless of how you decide to feed your baby you will need breastfeeding pads. They are as much for keeping milk in, as they are for protecting your nipples rubbing on clothing and getting sore. I loved the Johnson's nursing pads.
Travel:
Buying a pram and pushchair is a big investment, think wisely about your needs and lifestyle. I've known loads of friends who have regretted their pushchair purchase six months in.
Big is not always better, consider your needs, are you living in a busy city? Will you be getting on and off busses? Huge off terrain wheels then are probably not the easiest to navigate around shopping isles and on a bus. Also think about the weight of your pushchair, if a lift is out could you carry the pushchair and your baby.
We did absolutely tons of research to find a pushchair that met our needs, our Babyzen Yoyo plus 0+ (£485) is definitely the best purchase we made and still is eleven months on.
A perfect addition to your pushchair purchase will be a Snooze Sleep Shade (£19.99), protection from the sun, wind and black out for such much needed sleep.
We went for the Cybex Cloud Q Group 0+ in Autumn Gold (£220).
Travelling in a car with a new baby can be stressful if you can't physically view them. One of my best purchases was the Streetwize extra large super view mirror (£11.95).
A baby needs changing lots so when out and about on your travels you will want a bag that holds everything you need for your little one. I am going to do a what's in my changing bag post in a few weeks but until then here is a sneaky peek at mine.
I loved the Jura (£59) in beautiful Cranberry, which comes with a 3-in 1 bag, changer pod, feeding pod and changing mat.
Babies don't require many toys, Noah wasn't really interested in any until around four months. There are however some parent essentials that mean you can place your baby down whilst doing every day tasks.
For me our best purchases have to be baby activity gyms and a swing seat.
Mine and Noah's favourite activity gyms have to be the Skip Hop Treetop Friends Activity Gym (£69.95) and Fisher-Price Rainforest Melodies & Lights Deluxe Baby Play Gym (£36)
Our baby swing for me was a god send, Noah hated being put down which made showering or really doing anything impossible. The Fisher Price Rainforest swing and seat (£59.99) meant that Noah would happily swing away to soothing nature sounds whilst I got on.
So there you have it all my baby essentials and products that I have really valued buying. Do you have any recommendations or things I have missed off?
Lastly a good bit of advice from a mummy friend is that with Amazon Prime anything you need or have forgotten can be with you either within 2 hours or the next day, so there is no need to stockpile. As an added bonus, you can while away a few hours whilst the baby is cluster feeding, Internet shopping sneaking in treats for yourself amongst the essentials!
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